Thursday, September 5, 2013

The School Cafeteria and Extending an Invitation

Luke 14:1, 7-14

Back when Lindsay Lohan’s career trajectory was moving upward, she starred in a wonderfully horrible film called “Mean Girls.”  The movie played on all the stereotypes of high school – you had the band geeks, the jocks, the nerds, the theater kids, and the “plastics” which was a new term for me.  The plastics were the extremely popular girls and were they ever mean.  And then there was Cady, played by Lohan who had lived in Africa her whole life, her parents had just moved back to the United States and so she enters high school, incredibly smart, attractive, and completely unaware of the hierarchy of high school social groups.  Therefore she has the opportunity to figure it all out. 

The movie is about Cady’s trail of figuring out the social dynamics of school and as one would expect she desires more than anything to become one of the cool girls, a mean girl, a ‘plastic.’  And she does, and overthrows the queen bee Regina.  During that struggle, here is a conversation taking place at the equivalent of a wedding banquet – the fancy cafeteria lunch.


Gretchen: Regina, we have to talk to you.
Regina: Is butter a carb?
Cady: [Rudely] YES.
Gretchen: Regina, you're wearing sweatpants. It's Monday.
Regina: So...?
Karen: So that's against the rules, and you can't sit with us.
Regina: Whatever. Those rules aren't real.
Karen: They were real that day I wore a vest!
Regina: Because that vest was disgusting!
Gretchen: You can't sit with us!
Regina: [pause] These sweatpants are all that fits me right now.
Regina: [after being ignored] Fine! You can walk home, *&^%%$.

There is a feeling that where you sit in the cafeteria defines who you are. 
Which is nothing new. 
The school cafeteria has always existed.  In ancient Palestine, there were special seats in wedding feasts.  The men would recline on couches and a center couch existed for the person of honor.  Honor depended on wealth, power, or political office and if some showed up late to the party, as was often the case, a little game of musical chairs was played and the most prominent guest would end up in the middle.  If you choose the worst place in the party, you have no option but to move up if someone lower in status arrives. 

And it is not surprising that we identify with this story in Luke’s Gospel.  We have been experiencing this since we began in primary school.  We dreaded it in middle school, we loathed it in high school, and we are ashamed of it as adults.  
I was walking down the street in my neighborhood the other day.  There are 22 kids on the block and I mistakenly asked a mom where her child went to school.   She responded, but I could sense this mom was hesitant to share.  The public vs. private school world in Memphis, just another example of the dreadful cafeteria and having to sit at certain lunch table that defines who we are. 
We are all to some extent trying to figure out our place in life.

A lot of the deep theological concepts that we wrestle with every single day are not really spelled out in the Bible.  If they were, I wonder if you would have tens of thousands of different Christian denominations all believing they have it figured out rightly. To some extent this exists because Jesus taught using metaphors and parables.  They are rich ways of opening up our hearts and minds to that which we can’t really understand – the rich mystery of faith.  

One of the themes that has moved through the sermons the last few weeks is the Kingdom of Heaven.  As a people of faith we wait for the kingdom of heaven to be ushered in on earth.  Or maybe we believe it is here now and we can catch glimpses of it from time to time when life is moving in harmony with God.   Throughout the Gospels Jesus is often referring to the Kingdom of God as a wedding banquet.  So when we hear this parable in today’s Gospel we should immediately begin asking question – what does this have to do with the kingdom of God.  And is my struggle to find acceptance and my location in the world not only a present emotional reality but a spiritual one as well?

I think the first reality is one we know well.  In this week’s “Thinking Ahead”, I quoted Golda Meir, the prime Minister of Israel in the 1970s, who made this snarky comment to a visiting Ambassador – “Don’t be so humble.  You are not that great.”  Humility is the remarkable sign of the ultimate greatness.  And boy is it ever hard to really be humble.   We have all met remarkable life changing people who are doing so much good for the world.  And if they have too much ego, too much pride, we want nothing to do with them.  And when we get really excited about our own accomplishments, we have to be so careful to temper how we share what are involved in or our own need for credit.  Which brings me to what I believe the first of two points our Gospel can invite us to consider about the kingdom of heaven. 

The work of God in our lives is pulling us forward to a greater place of life – the kingdom, and we participate in this action through humility.  The parable of the wedding banquet encourages the listener to move to the lowest seat in order to be elevated.  The reason being, that Palestine weddings assumed movement and a constant stream of new visitors.  Our humility allows for other people to be lifted up as well. 

What, I am saying is that the kingdom of heaven is full of many guests.  And our humility allows all to be lifted up in life.  This is about the ministry of all.  It is about humility allowing each gift of each person in this community to take the place of honor.  Our task is about making the space for all people to use their gifts, to be a part of the community.  This is a lesson I need to deeply learn.  In my own life, in my gifts of ministry I can get side tracked into trying to accomplish a lot of tasks and do a lot of things.  And if that inhibits others from participating, I have pushed my own humility out of the equation.  If you are person who operates similarly to me, today’s Gospel is a chance to reflect about humility and making space for others. 

If you are person who doesn't think your gifts are not being used, I hope you hear the plea for your presence and your talent.  As a people of faith, we do not walk alone, but are all drawn together to bring about the kingdom of heaven, which brings me to my second point. 

What separates people from the kingdom is an invitation.  Jesus follows up the parable with another plea to invite the marginalized in society.  He reminds the apostles to invite people to parties that have nothing material to give back, or no other invitations.  He mentions the poor, the blind, and the lame.  What is evident is that the people we don’t expect to be at the party are the very ones we are supposed to be inviting.  It is an extension of the kingdom of heaven, and who is there… all, the ones who are so hesitant to get involved with.  And while this Gospel is also a plea to reach out to all, to not do the typical social climbing, or networking that is part of American privileged culture, this story also points to another possibility – the kingdom of God is only an invitation away.  And guess who has the invitations. 

Funny that we have mailed out 350 postcards inviting people back to be with us to celebrate 25 years of being church.  But of course, the parable goes much deeper, is much richer, and needs much more to be heard.    The Gospel make a few claims, one specifically in Matthew 16:19 where Matthew says, “I give you the keys to the kingdom.”  I think that while we may not fully ever understand what this kingdom of heaven really is, the reality that we long for, and we what catch glimpses of from time to time, is only an invitation away.  It is about how we open ourselves and our community up to be welcoming to all.  And how do we as individuals become available?  Is it about what we expect in return?  Do we seek out friends who are similar to us and make us comfortable and less available to others? Maybe humility is the ability to see someone who society sees as having nothing to offer, an to allow them a space to make an offering.   

The kingdom is only an invitation away, and we are called to be an inviting congregation.  I wish I had definitive answers to what this looked like.  And I don’t, but I am excited to be a part of a conversation that is exploring how we more fully open this property to the greater community wanting nothing in return except to glorify God.   While I wrestle with what an inviting congregation should be, and what this reality looks like, I think we can be confident, that our humility can allow for an invitation to be heard.    By our humility, we create space for others to use their gifts, and that is an invitation all by itself. It is an invitation to leave the school cafeteria. It is an invitation that all can receive, and it is a good place to begin.   

Amen.

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